Just kidding. You will lose your dignity.
The Real Talk
Have you ever watched the series Outlander? I did.
Of course, we’re not going to talk about that gorgeous, coltish Apollo, Jamie Fraser.
We’re going to talk about the fact that you’ll regret it if you don’t act.
No, we’re not going to talk about destiny either. I believe we create our own.
God created us and gave us the ability to choose, so we’re the decision-makers.
Just because you searched “how to make your ex want you back” or “how to bring back your ex” means you have a very strong desire to contact them — and you’re actively searching for a solution.
Forget About Dignity
Dignity exists only in your head.
You’ll “lose” your dignity only in your own eyes — that’s why you’re thinking about it.
The truth is, even if it doesn’t work out, your ex won’t sit there remembering it or thinking less of you.
It’s you who will remember it, replay it, and feel ashamed that you tried — and they closed the door in your face.
So, it’s clear what you need to overcome before acting: yourself.
You need to understand what you’ll feel if it doesn’t work out.
If the answer is that you’ll feel extremely bad, then please close this window and stop reading.
The Secret and Faith
Have you ever heard of that book The Secret?
It was ridiculously popular in the late 2000s.
Did you know the idea behind it actually comes from the Bible? (Just the Bible — don’t overthink.)
In the Bible, the main message is to be kind, have faith, and love.
Of course, there’s much more to it, but have you ever wondered why the Bible talks so much about faith?
The real secret to everything lies in faith.
When you’re learning something new, if you don’t have faith in your ability to learn it, you never will.
It’s the same here — if you don’t have faith that your ex might be on the same page as you, the outcome of contacting them will be rejection, even if not immediately. The reason is simple: doubt kills connection.
You can’t just hit a “faith” button and start believing — I know.
If it were that easy, life would be simple.
But let me share a few ideas that helped me rebuild faith in myself, in what I want, and in how I move next.
A Random Thought About Reconnecting
When you contact your ex, remember these lyrics from a song:
Take off your clothes
And make you all mine
Let me get lost on you
Dance with me
Play with me and I’ll play with you
My thought is this: when you contact your ex, they already know one thing — even if they reject you, you still have time to play with them. You will play with your ex, and your ex will play with you. Enjoy that moment and let it go.
Now that we’ve stopped for a moment because of my random thought, let’s continue.
How to Regain Faith in Yourself
At one point in my life, I also lost faith in myself and in everything I was doing.
What helped me might not help you, but I’m sharing it anyway — maybe it will.
1. Watch Kind, Inspiring Movies or Cartoons
I rewatch certain movies whenever I need to recharge and remind myself that life still has beauty in it.
The Pursuit of Happyness
This movie always takes me back to my childhood. My mom once decided to bake cakes to earn some money after the Soviet collapse. She invested everything we had in ingredients, but the cake burned. She told me, “There is nothing that cannot be solved.” She cut the burned crusts and turned it into a completely different cake. The customer loved it. That’s faith and resilience — and that’s why I love this movie.
Freedom Writers
It reminds me that we all have freedom of choice. One person might choose marriage, another might choose to be self-made. The decision is yours alone, and no one in the world has the right to judge you. If someone does — remove them from your life.
I also watch cartoons like Shrek and The Road to El Dorado. They bring kindness, laughter, and positive energy, which always improves my mindset and restores my faith.
2. Travel and Spend Time With Yourself
Traveling helps me reset.
Even when I travel with a friend, I make time to walk alone, think, and get out of my mental boundaries. Traveling gives me ideas about what I want to do. I dream, make plans, and start acting on them.
Doing nothing for a while helps me gather my thoughts. It clears the noise. When I travel, I feel like there are endless possibilities waiting for me — something I can’t always see when I’m overworked at home.
And no, it doesn’t have to be expensive. I always look for cheap trips. There are plenty of affordable options if you search online.
3. Go Back to Family
This one is the most important for me.
I spend time with my family — sometimes I drive to the village and stay with my aunt. I call my cousins, and we turn it into a small party. We talk, share our days and problems, and somehow those conversations bring peace.
Even if we don’t solve anything, spending time together fills me with energy.
I don’t know if there’s a saying like this, but I always think:
When you get nervous and negative, stop for a day or two. Do nothing, just think.
And please — turn off your phone when doing this.
Now, Back to Getting Your Ex to Want You Back
If you’ve regained your faith, it means you also know what you want. Don’t overthink the “what if.”
Think about what caused your breakup. Do you even remember? If yes, then it was serious.
Whatever caused it — can you fix it? Does it involve you or your ex changing?
If it’s about you, can you change?
If it’s about your ex, can you accept them as they are instead of expecting change?
If yes, then great — move forward.
Have you thought of ways to get in touch?
A surprise meetup or a simple message? If yes, then do it. Don’t wait for your ex to make the first move.
In life, you’ll regret not stepping up more than you’ll regret trying. Even if it fails, at least you’ll have your answer.
Before you take that step, do something for a week before bed.
Pray if you do, and visualize being with your ex again.
Imagine what you’d do together, how it would feel. Do this every night for a few days.
Then take your step — message them or arrange that “accidental” meetup.
It worked for me. I once staged a surprise meetup in a place where I knew my ex would be — and it worked.
Final Thought
Whether it works out or not, you’ll be fine — maybe even better.
This isn’t about proving you’re worthy of love; it’s about reminding yourself that you still believe in it.
Faith isn’t some magic formula that brings your ex back. It’s a quiet decision to try one more time without fear, to trust that even rejection won’t break you.
If they come back — great, you’ll know it’s real.
If they don’t — you’ll still have your dignity, even if you lost it for a moment. Because the truth is, having the courage to act from the heart is the most dignified thing you can ever do.